And after that, I rebounded hard in the other direction – the next time, I was the one who invested nothing into my next relationship… It wasn’t until I truly realized that how the other person treats me or acts in a relationship has NOTHING to do with me that I was finally set free.I reacted so poorly to investing in someone who wasn’t invested in me that I completely closed myself off from letting myself have feelings for anyone else at that time. People obsess over trying to extract actions from the other person to prove that they’re in a good relationship. It’s not to say that there aren’t things that I want, but it’s not my mission to make the other person do things a certain way so I can feel good about myself.Self-esteem doesn’t come from blowing kisses to your reflection in the mirror or repeating “I love myself” over and over.
The fact was, at that time I identified with my relationship.
The way that the girl treated me meant something about me (in my mind).
Looking back on it, it wasn’t about my relationship with her – it was about the relationship I had with myself.
It was a hit to my self-image and ego and I got sucked into to chasing that part of myself I felt I had lost…
Here are ten things people with high self-esteem do differently in their relationships: 1.