Via Richard Wiseman’s excellent book 59 Seconds: Change Your Life in Under a Minute: As a result of the interviews, the researchers speculated that the best strategy would be to give a potential date the impression that in general you were hard to get (and therefore a scarce resource worth having) but really enthusiastic about him or her specifically.They tested this notion by using some of the same techniques…“If you ask people about their experience of falling in love, over 90 percent will say that a major factor was discovering that the other person liked them,” according to Dr. This idea is affirmed by studying the effectiveness of “playing hard to get.” What’s the best way to play that game?
Consistent with this, Robert Provine analyzed more than 3000 singles ads and found that women were more likely to describe their good humor appreciation ability whereas men were more likely to offer good humor production ability.
Gil Greengross and Geoffrey Miller found in a sample of 400 university students that general intelligence and verbal intelligence both predicted humor production ability (writing captions for cartoons), which in turn predicted lifetime number of sexual partners (a proxy of reproductive success).
That said, don’t get so nervous about your words that you can’t speak…
When a woman is very attracted to a man, whether his pickup line is good or not doesn’t matter at all.
The former invest in quality, and it seems like the latter make up the difference in, well, Looking to settle down?