If you’re seeking her approval with, “Please let me know when you’re around.” “Did you get my last text? So rather than take the risk of screwing things up by asking her out, you just continue chatting with her.
Because if you invite her to do something and she says no, then you might lose that sweet, sweet attention. It’s not going to move a connection forward or towards intimacy.
So they overcompensate and protect themselves by pretending to be unavailable. Then they respond accordingly by acting distant to protect themselves, too. So when you finally invite her to do something, she doesn’t give you a concrete answer.
They think it will make them seem more valuable and less needy. She plays it cool and says “maybe next week” or “I’m not sure what my schedule is.” You play this endlessly frustrating game where you both don’t commit to moving forward.
You get a girl’s number and then do nothing with it! I also know you’re afraid of getting a response because that means you have to take the next steps. It took you longer to come up with that excuse than to send a one-sentence text to her.
So sometimes it’s easier to not reach out and make excuses. And I know you didn’t magically forget, you’ve been thinking about this decision repeatedly.
A lot of you come to me saying, “I don’t have any potential women in my life.” When I ask about your methods, I often learn that you HAVE opportunities, you just don’t capitalize on them! Or, you’re just plain oblivious to the “green lights” you’re getting from women.