Frankly, I’m surprised your lover has been able to keep you under wraps for 30 years without the two of you being spotted somewhere.
If you are truly sad for your lover’s wife, you should end the affair.
Dear Can’t Stop: The problem with the rationale “what others don’t know won’t hurt them” is that, at some point, the truth usually comes out.
And when it does, there are usually plenty of hurt feelings.
They tap into each other's sarcastic, careless side, and it leads them to behave badly.
Frank's encouragement even leads Emma to be rude to poor, talkative Miss Bates, mocking her inability to stop prattling.
However, because it has taken you three decades to discover your conscience, I somehow doubt you will.